Yesterday’s post on home made me think about the need for fellowship. God created us for relational fellowship with Him and with others.
|Warm fellowship can thaw chilly hearts.|
Those who enjoy warm fellowship are usually able to register coldness between two hearts in home struggling with one another. I bet you know what I mean.
Comfortable (warm) fellowship equals good company, opportunities to bounce ideas, sharing of tips, caring for others, lifting spirits, encouraging, and influencing for the good of another.
Chilled fellowship produces anxiety, negativity, harmful influence, quenching of the Spirit, soul destruction, and discouragement.
Comfortable fellowship produces healthy dialogue but also accepts healthy silence. Good fellowship pays attention to others’ lives. It asks sincere questions of another and continues to care. It’s pure. It’s real. It’s sweet.
Chilly fellowship produces dominating monologue in order to silence another. This negative fellowship can’t remember a thing about another one’s life. It asks probing questions just to fill up air and then twists information. It’s nosy. It’s fake. It’s bitter.
I prefer life-giving fellowship. Who doesn’t?
I prefer those who offer life in the way they engage with others.
I want my home to be a place where life-giving fellowship flourishes. What about you?
The opposite is a major turn off for me and I will avoid those who drag me down by making our fellowship environment cold.
Admittedly, I have been on the giving end of spirit-squelching and I have been on the receiving end as well. I am much more quick to recognize it when I receive it than when I give it.
Signs I am making the environment too chilly for authentic fellowship?
- Spouting off a biting comment
- Discouraging sincerity
- Letting bitterness guide my words
- Resenting another
- Holding onto unforgiveness
- Propagating sarcasm
- Giving the silent treatment.
Preventing healthy fellowship at home is destructive.
so that we spread the flame by our example to others.
Home is the best place to teach about fellowship. How different would our world be if we better exampled this concept at home before our little ones fly away to kindergarten, then college, then marriage and parenting?
Who in your sphere of influence needs the warm fellowship you can provide against today’s cold world? It just might be someone under your own roof.