If you hadn’t heard, the main giant, the devil, has big plans for you and your family. Not only does he prowl around us individually, he prowls around our families trying to find ways into the midst so he can devour us. I’ve often heard that in military maneuvers, in order for the military to defeat its enemies, they will study its habits in order to form a plan of attack. Over the next few days, we’re going to survey some of our enemy’s tactics. These won’t come out of some parenting book. These come straight from my experience as a mom and Rob’s experience as a dad. I’ll be sure to let you know who is saying what.
As I whip out my parental binoculars and survey my past and current challenges as a mom, here’s a big giant:
The giant of comparison. What does it do?
- It makes me compare myself to other moms who just seem to have it all together and therefore, leaves me feeling way inferior and unworthy of this task God has granted me.
- It causes me to look over the fence, metaphorically, and take stock of other families who do things I wish we did.
- On the flip side, this giant of comparison causes me to also look down on others when I see an opportunity to gloat over my self-perceived superior mothering skills.
- It causes me to compare the strengths and weaknesses of my own children with those of each other and other families’ children, too.
- On a more personal level (as a woman and not only as a mom) it causes me to look at the magazine picture of the pretty woman and hate what I see in the mirror. It also causes me to look at my home after visiting a friend who has redecorated and apologize for my cheap converted tablecloths from Target that I turned into accent drapes.
There. I said it.
So, now that giant has been exposed, what can we do to combat it? Frisk the thought at the door of your mind! Philippians 4:8 says this in my NASB translation, “Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell (think) on these things.”
In other words, frisk the thought of comparison and if it’s none of the above then don’t let it enter your mind and take over your thoughts. Close the door on the giant. Keep in mind that when you do, he’s going to tell you this, “So and so didn’t close the door!” Close it anyway with a firm SLAM! He’ll keep knocking. Ignore him as you are thinking on true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, excellent things of good repute about you, your children, and your family.