When Schedules Leave No Room for Spontaneity

Posted by on Nov 12, 2008 in Blog Posts | 0 comments

Today’s post is a “sho ‘nough” Titus 2 style post. Is somebody asking what I mean by “Titus 2”? In Paul’s letter to Titus he says in chapter 2, verses 3-5 the following: “Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips, not enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be dishonored.”

Recently I was asked by some friends to come up with the answer to a question. How do I manage running the house and having a ministry? My instant response in my mind was, “not very well, lately.”

In my prayer time I asked God what had happened to this home ec major that she couldn’t seem to get it all done any more? You know what He said? He convicted me graciously that I spend too much time on the…this hurts….computer!

Shortly after His reponse, I was getting ready for the day (Saturday) and I could hear the vacuum running. Uh oh. That means one thing only. My man has had enough of the dust and has taken matters into his own hands and has begun to do housework that I’ve dropped. OUCH! The guilt was so heavy that I could not even tell him “thank you” but instead casted my lack of keeping up onto him with a critical spirit. OUCH! He made it clear he was helping and it had nothing to do with what my mind was falsely telling me.

Nonetheless, I took it as a sign from God, that I needed to get my schedule in order and be more responsible around the house…like I used to be. In my best days of housekeeping, I was so organized that I was no fun. Every week was so organized that I think I must have been an arrogant housewife. I was very proud of my schedule and stuck to it like a maniac. One bad but providential day, in the process of hanging a new shower curtain, I fell and broke my wrist. What most people don’t know (now they will) is that the fall broke more than my wrist. It broke my spirit BUT in a good way. I had been a horrible mom that day…fussing at two little boys who couldn’t keep their rooms clean enough for my high standards.

For eight weeks I had to rely on help to get it all done as my wrist healed with the attachment of an external fixator. I looked like the bionic woman with a towel bar on her arm. Creepy but it worked. I now have scars on my right arm and hand that remind me of what I don’t want to be like. Learning to receive help was also very difficult for me. I can still battle with that, obviously since I did not take a shine to Rob helping me out last week.

Well, last Saturday, I was reminded of how far in the opposite direction I’ve come. Now it’s time to get some balance and so I came up with a workable schedule, I hope, so Rob won’t have to do my housework on his day off. Gosh, this is embarrassing to let you in on. Mind you, I’m not saying he shouldn’t have to do anything around the house because he earns the monetary living that God provides Him. But, let’s be real. I was being a hypocritical housewife; staying home to care for the home but not caring for it.

So the schedule has several mornings built in where I am home preparing the Bible study lesson. Boundaries are set for checking email, blogging, going to facebook, and mindless surfing. A specific time is listed for when I must be done with ministry work and computer stuff. There are plans for doing a small amount of the housework each day. I prefer all in one day, but that’s just not realistic for me right now.

I’ve noticed that I have my time back since I’ve been trying to follow it (for all of two days!). I’m having to remind myself to say “no” to some really good things in order to take care of my family before others. There’s time built in for “catching up” when unexpected things will take some of the time away for planned things and that just cannot be helped. And that is okay, Amy!

So, I will have to plan for spontaneity. What? Yes. That type of planning for me means just working through being okay with the unknown surprises that will show up and being flexible to look at what must be done versus what I can be relaxed about this moment. Who knows, but in those surprising and unplanned moments, God may be trying to communicate something BIG for me to be a part of and I want to be available to His plans and not my structure only.

Haven’t we found in Hebrews that passage about entertaining strangers for in doing that some have been hospitable to angels and didn’t even know it!?

I end with a passage that speaks more to our bodies but I find is applicable to me today and being disciplined even in my time. 1 Corinthians 6:12 says, “All things are lawful for me, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be mastered by anything.”

I won’t be mastered by my calendar, but it is beneficial to have a plan to accomplish what God has called me to do: homemaker to my family and teacher to encourage women to get into the Word.

It’s all about balance and I am still learning.

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