Improving Your Skills with a Mentor

Posted by on Sep 8, 2011 in Blog Posts | 2 comments

“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” Titus 2:3-5 ESV (underline is mine)
Today, we look at the Skills-Art mentor.

By the way, we are traveling at the legal speed now and I am delighted to be away from the congestion of stuck traffic.  People aren’t very nice when two lanes merge into one.  What happens to manners?  Out the window!  Some of these people could use driving manners mentors.  Ha!  Admittedly, there have been numerous times when I could have used one of those myself.  Sigh.  Back to blogging…

In our community, a local high school has as part of its graduation requirement, a mentor/mentee learning relationship.  The student (mentee) secures a mentor from outside his or her family to teach them something they do not know how to do.  I’ve been this type of mentor to Valerie, our son David’s sweetheart.  I taught her cooking lessons; specifically, how to make a variety of desserts.  Our time together was sweet, literally and figuratively.

She had a notebook with deadlines to meet and tasks to complete.  She would have questions, I would answer.  She would take notes, I would supply recipe handouts.  She began as a novice and mastered some not-so-novice techniques.  I should have secured a cooking mentor for me before I taught Valerie all I knew about Royal Icing…which was…uhm..not a lot and not enough for her to successfully master that.  Oh well.  Lesson learned and not learned depending on how you look at it.

These types of mentor/mentee relationships offer help, encouragement, and growth opportunities to an individual’s life in developing a skill or an art.  A writer would seek another more experienced writer to help develop her art.  One who sews would desire someone more professional to pick the brain of for tidbits and how-tos.  A teacher seeks the advice and critique of a more experienced teacher to further her craft.  A new teacher enlists the help of a more-experienced one.  You get my point.

Just as Valerie sought my help in cooking, I spent a few months learning from a cookbook author.  At the time, I wanted to learn more about writing a cookbook.  Nathalie Dupree was willing to take me under her wing to test recipes for her latest cookbook then.  Although I haven’t written a cookbook, I did gain valuable experience that proved to be helpful in running my own kitchen at home.  I also learned about growing fresh herbs from her.  That was something I did not anticipate learning.  Yet, I have enjoyed growing herbs and still know the benefits of and enjoy the convenience of them outside my back door thanks to Nathalie.


Being a worker in the home (even if you work outside the home) requires skills.  Are there areas where you could improve your skills?  Take heart, look around you and find a mentor if you feel led to and move forward in developing your homemaking techniques.

Opportunity for Response:

If you could secure a skills-art mentor today, in what area would you hope to find one (whether it’s professional, home, or hobby-related)?  Please leave your response. Thank you.


  1. As you know, I serve in the library at my church. I’m not a professional librarian, so most everything I’ve learned about running a church library has been due to skills-art mentors who serve their churches and are willing to offer training opportunities. It’s not usually one-on-one training. However, having met them at a regional conference, I now call on them as the need arises.

  2. It is a blessing to have several mentors in an area to call on as you work your way to fulfilling a goal in Christian service. I love church libraries! Yea that your church has one and that you are meeting a need in growing it.

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