The Pit of Despair

Posted by on Jul 31, 2013 in Blog Posts | 6 comments

PreviewI began this week with the lighthearted and informative post about the cherry pitter. It was as if you and I were standing in my kitchen opening drawers and I pulled out this particular kitchen tool with a sigh of admiration and a high recommendation from one Titus 2 girl to another.

That’s what we do in the kitchen with a friend. At first. Sometimes the friendly surface stuff moves into more serious matters of the heart. Such is the case today.

Welcome to a Heart Notes post…one girl to another. Here’s where I open the window of my heart to you and share something personal or poignant in an attempt to offer encouragement or advice.

The type of pit I’m referring to today is:

  1. Despair, discouragement, hopelessness, and loneliness that surround us when we land in it.
  2. Sometimes cynicism, bitterness, jealousy, worldliness, and dissatisfaction push us over the edge.
  3. Based on medical and health issues, classic clinical depression can land us here.

Here’s where I pull up the chair to the counter, pat the seat next to me for you to sit on, pick up my mug of coffee and ask you if you want a refill because I have something to tell you. Sip. Blink.

I have been in that pit, all alone it seemed, for all three reasons. Yes. All. Three.

I have dwelt there several times for the first two, never believing that the third one would happen to me. Oh, but it did. Rather than dwell on the hows and whys of my times in the pit, I want to share the more important part.

There is a pit remover of another kind and it’s God. He strikes a match to shine some light down in those dark trenches. I’m one of His matches today. Do you need to know that? Believe it.

I have learned from my pit time that it doesn’t help me at all to focus on my time there nor on the circumstances that got me there. By doing so, I stay too long and get worse. Instead, you and I need to focus on the remover, the light shiner- God.

Here are some tips for you to remember in the pit:

  • Look up, not around at your circumstances. Up.
  • Read your Bible. Find those verses that fit and camp out in them. Write them down. Memorize them. Marinate in them.
  • Pray. Pray some of those verses you found back to God. You can’t go wrong reminding Him of what He says.
  • Repent. Sometimes our time in the pit is due to sin in our lives. Agree with God over it and move on.
  • Seek forgiveness. If you’ve wronged someone, seek forgiveness.  Seek God’s forgiveness. Move on.

Do you see how vital your relationship with God is in how you handle the pit? He is a good and gracious God Who doesn’t want you to stay in the pit.  Look up. Reach up. Get out of there! You can do it!

An extra message to those in the pit because of the diagnosis of clinical depression. Be a good girl and take your medicine. I fully believe it has been prescribed for you to help you.  If He owns the cattle on a thousand hills and everything else, He owns the knowledge that got the medicine made in the first place…so take it, please. Take it as prescribed without guilt or condemnation. Seek godly counselors in addition to your physician. I am praying for you that it won’t be forever. Let your doctor guide you in coming off of it when he or she deems is the right time.

And so, we conclude our time in the kitchen. I hope you have found some gracious good encouragement for your heart today. We are made for more than a pit-filled typed of life, but sometimes we find ourselves there.

If you have a favorite verse that you focus on when in the pit, why not help another sister out and leave the verse address or the actual verse in the comments. I bet it will be a GG kind of blessing!

I’ll start with one for your heart…

But you, O Lord, are a shield about me,
    my glory, and the lifter of my head.
I cried aloud to the Lord,
    and he answered me from his holy hill.” – Psalm 3:3-4 ESV


  1. Oh, Amy, I love you! So excited for you and your new website and your blogging goodness! I have great faith that God has some awesome plans for you and me. P.S. It’s been 10 years since I turned over that Bible Study to you for my “baby” sabbatical. God has been good! Looking forward… and so glad we have each other for de-pitting!

    • Thanks Kelli! I am thankful for all the opportunities God has tossed my way and for the encouraging friends who have shared responsibilities/blessings in pits and out of pits. Much love to you!

  2. I remain confident of this:
    I will see the goodness of the Lord
    in the land of the living.
    Wait for the Lord;
    be strong and take heart
    and wait for the Lord.

    Psalm 27:13-14

    • I love this one, Nancy. Thanks for sharing some solid word of encouragement. I know it will bless others who read it.

  3. “Fear not, for I am with you;
    be not dismayed, for I am your God;
    I will strengthen you, I will help you,
    I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

    This verse was pivotal in my recovery from clinical depression. I was sick for two years. Though i have been better now for eight years, I continue with medication due to family history of depression.

    • Sweet Kimberly,
      Thank you for sharing this comforting verse and also for your candor in your personal story with depression. I am thankful you are well and that you have seen the blessings of medication that continues to work. I love you, sweet friend!

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